Moving On…
Lately I have been coming across this phrase ‘Moving On…’ a lot too often. Be it in terms of a job change or the more common reference of relationships. A job change of course isn’t the hot topic of discussion today. Yes, the focus is on moving on in relationships.
How easy is it to “move on?” Does it really happen that one CAN actually put everything in the past and go ahead into something new with ease? Seeing people around me, I can say, well not really that easy. Moving on or in other words separating and starting afresh wouldn’t be a cake walk I presume. If someone asks me on the possibility, I don’t think the phrase and phase would be anything but easy. Emotional involvement with anyone is an exchange of not only moments or times spent together but much more than that. It is more so an exchange of personalities, thought process, energies and much beyond which words shall always fail to explain. A part of both the individuals is exchanged, the separation ends up leaving a void, which in most cases takes a very long time to fill. At times an eternity.
To summarize moving on is a slow process and doesn’t really happen in it’s entirety. Those who have ever been involved in a relationship would know this better, how ever many years may pass by, but there are times when you do tend to remember the past. It could be just memories flashing by or a chance meeting at a social do with your ex. There are moments that do tend to flash by, if not stay permanently (for numerous reasons).
I totally agree..moving on is tough and memories just make it tougher..though certain realisations do help in the process (for lack of a better word)
Quotin Harivanshrai bacchans famous works—
“Jeevan mein ek sitara tha
Maana woh behad pyara tha
Woh doob gaya to doob gaya
Ambar ke aanan ko dekho
Kitne iske tare toote
Kitne iske pyare chhoote
Jo chhoot gaye phir kahan mile
Par bolo toote taron par
Kab ambar shok manata hai
Jo beet gayi so baat gayi ….
Jeewan mein tha who ek kusum
The us pe nitya nyochawar tum
Wo sookh gaya to sookh gaya
Madhuwan ki chaati ko dekho
Sookhi kitni iski kaliyan
Jo murjhai phir kahan khili
Par bolo sookhe phoolon pe
Kab madhuvan shok manata hai ?
Jo beet gayi so baat gayi
Jeewan mein madhu ka pyala tha
Tumne tan man de daala tha
Woh toot gaya to toot gaya
Madiralay ka aangan dekho
Kitne pyaale hil jaate hain
Gir mitti mein mil jate hain
Jo girte hain kab uthte hain
Par bolo toote pyalon mein kab madiralay pachtata hai ?
Jo beet gayi so baat gayi
Mridu mitti ke hain bane huye
Madhu ghat phoota hi kartein hain
Laghu jeewan leke aaye hain
Pyale toota hi karte hain
Phir bhi madiralay ke andar
Madhu ke ghat madhu ke pyale hain
Jo madakta ke mare hain
Wo madhu loota hi karte hain
Wo kachcha peene wala hai
Jiski mamta ghat pyalon par
Jo sachche madhu se jala hua
Kab rota hai chillata hai?
Jo beet gayi so baat gayi ……”
sorry for the ultra long comment–but i just couldn’t help posting the entire poem.
i know its a lot easier said than done though..all said, relationships/love always make u stronger as a person, stronger by either staying with you or stronger by leaving you stranded.
Comment by pri — January 24, 2011 @ 8:58 pm
@ Pri: So true and so aptly put…Psst: love the extra long comment from you after soo long!
Comment by Anz — February 1, 2011 @ 12:48 am
Hey Anz,
After a long long time…Nice to see you blogging again although the topic is a bit surreal.
How have you been…
Please write more.
And by the way,is ‘pri’ Priyangini by any chance….
Comment by Navjot — April 4, 2011 @ 6:47 pm
@ Navjot: Hey, yup been long. I am very irregular, though it’s good to keep randomly posting here now and then. Surreal, maybe, but was very predominant part of conversations at that time.
I have been good…what about you?
Yes, Pri is our world famous Priyangini
Tried visiting your blog, but the link does not work, you still blogging?
Comment by Anz — April 6, 2011 @ 12:38 am
ahem!!
anz, perhaps im eavesdropping here, but who is this ‘priyangini’??
i always thought pri was ‘priyanka’ aka me!! ;D
P.S: just thought i should specify to avoid any sorta confusion
Comment by pri — April 6, 2011 @ 8:44 pm
ahem!!
anz, perhaps im eavesdropping here, but who is this ‘priyangini’??
i always thought pri was ‘priyanka’ aka me!! ;D
P.S: just thought i should specify to avoid any sorta confusion
Comment by pri — April 6, 2011 @ 8:54 pm
@ Pri: Oops…I am sorry, I for a second had taken you for another friend who’s bloggers name was Pri
sorry for the mistaken identity.
Comment by Anz — August 30, 2011 @ 1:56 am